Category: Stories Of Trauma

The Selfish Me

“As a night nurse, I want to be able to tell clients that we are here not just for meds but also to listen to them” Rosemarie Stanton, RN, The Refuge – A Healing Place “Look at me. You called me strong. I always take care of you, my love, my family, my friends and yet I always feel alone. I cry too you know. I need a shoulder to cry... Read More

In Defense of Lying

Guest Blogger: Monica O’Connell, MA LMFT As a trauma therapist, I spend a lot of time educating people about how we got ourselves into the pickle of using a specific behavior to solve life problems.  All the while now knowing that those behaviors aren’t working for us any more and counting to do them. It might have worked brilliantly to get drunk in college; c’mon, all our friends did it.... Read More

Finding A New Tribe

“Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .” C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves  I have years of education, months of additional and specialized training and my own personal experiences in recovery from addiction and childhood trauma, but to some clients, I’m just another person with a position of power, and trusting me can be far... Read More

The Courage To Make The Call

By: Krystal Bush, MSW Admissions Coordinator One thing that all of our clients, past and present, have in common is that their journey to recovery started with a phone call.  This is for all of those brave souls that made that call on their own and for the loved ones who called on their behalf.

Finding Our Reflection

Trauma can alter our entire being and the way we view our selves and the world around us. This is not a new concept, and perhaps Ancient Talmudic words illustrate this best: “We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Many trauma survivors are still stuck in the past, and as a result, they miss out on the present moment and life seems to... Read More

A Different Perspective on the Holidays

By: Thomas Pecca, MS, CAS, CSAT, CTT Therapist, The Refuge – A Healing Place When I think of Thanksgiving, the classic Norman Rockwell painting comes to mind. A huge family sitting around a table preparing to carve a Turkey, so big it looks almost prehistoric. Smiles and anticipation on every face. For many of us that painting, although a caricature of American life, is close to accurate. For many of us... Read More

Courage To Be Known

By: David Moss, LMHC, CTT3 Outpatient Therapist, The Refuge – A Healing Place During my internship in my Masters in Counseling program I was shown a video of a Ted Talk by Brene Brown that has shaped how I approach counseling to this day. While working on her doctorate Brene collected data on what connects us as human beings and she found an interesting theme, instead of people sharing what connected them... Read More

Opening Doors

By: Annie Kaja Reed, BA, CAS Counselor, The Refuge – A Healing Place “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, Who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably.He may be clearing you out... Read More

The Jerk Inside Your Head

“It takes 1,000 “Atta boys” to overcome one, “You’re worthless and no good.” –Dr. Phil A few months ago I was sitting at my daughter’s softball practice when she came up to me frustrated because all she was hearing from her coach was “swing harder, swing faster” which, to her, translated to “you’re not doing it right, you’re not good at this.”

The Healing Power of Film

By: Tom Pecca, MA, CAS, CSAT, CTT Therapist – The Refuge – A Healing Place “Robin Williams has taken his own life!” I received that text last week and, at first I thought it was just one more internet hoax like so many others. When I started to see the news reports roll in and, realized this was not a stupid internet prank but, a true human tragedy it began... Read More

Beneath The Surface

It’s hard to understand addiction sometimes. It’s really hard to understand when it’s someone you care for and they are looking back at you, clearly intoxicated by whatever their favorite form of controlled dissociation is (drugs, alcohol, sex, food/not eating food, gambling), and they are again lying, again manipulating and again doing all the things we can’t stand. 

Secrets of Trauma

  What is it like to carry the secret of trauma for many years and maybe even decades? This is the reality that trauma therapists around the world and especially at The Refuge face daily.  Many of our clients show up for treatment in crisis as a result of bearing the emotions associated with many years of holding on to a secret.

I Was Leaving Sedona

  I was leaving Sedona, not on a fast train, but on a 10 passenger shuttle to the Phoenix airport and as I entered I realized what bad planning I had created. This was a 2 hour ride and the seats were filled from other hotels and 3 people including myself who were in a really peaceful, spiritual place after a 5 day retreat.

Physician Heal Thyself

It feels like I have lived on an airplane for the last 2 months. I know that’s a real issue when the TSA folks greet me with, “Hello Ms. Crane, I love the new color you have added to your hair.” I have added a strip of pink….ok so I seek attention!! And yes when TSA recognizes you ,you are either on the watch list or you are traveling too... Read More

Trauma On The Silver Screen

  When you Unravel the Trauma Story You Understand the Addiction/Behavioral Story and you can Create the Recovery Story