Category: Addiction

The Lady In The Waiting Room

I was sitting in the waiting room of a doctor’s office one day and overheard a woman talking about addiction…how it “impacts everyone” and how the addict “just keeps on using”.  How she wanted to go to “those meetings” and tell “those addicts” just how badly they hurt others; how they need to listen to their family and friends and just stop it.  As a therapist in the field of... Read More

The Selfish Me

“As a night nurse, I want to be able to tell clients that we are here not just for meds but also to listen to them” Rosemarie Stanton, RN, The Refuge – A Healing Place “Look at me. You called me strong. I always take care of you, my love, my family, my friends and yet I always feel alone. I cry too you know. I need a shoulder to cry... Read More

Redefining Fun

When I work with younger people in their journey of recovery, one of the first roadblocks I encounter is combating their very destructive ideas about what fun and excitement looks like. I once had a mentor of mine describe insanity as changing our goals to meet our behaviors! To most individuals, running from police, getting beat up or exploited sexually, using chemicals and being on the verge of overdose and... Read More

The Healing Ability of Gratitude

By: Brennon Moore, MS, CTT, CADC-II   An addict can come to The Refuge and spend months, maybe  even years,  and do every assignment, attend every group and  process their past trauma  until their lips fall off, but they will  still need to work hard at their recovery  every day, starting the  moment they leave our property. In my experience, it  seems  that once a person changes the wiring of their... Read More

To The End Of A Smoke

By: Lisa Hicks, RN The Refuge – A Healing Place I am not writing this to tell you all the horrible details of smoking because you already have that information. We hear it on the television, the radio and the concerned relative. I am pretty sure it is common knowledge that smoking is harmful to your health. I am not going to bring guilt or shame upon you as many... Read More

When the Phoenix Falls

There is one thing the media and sports fans love: A comeback story. We’ve all seen the pieces: dramatic music, flashes of childhood pictures, a high school coach or two talking about “raw talent!” Fast forward to times of trouble, flashes of news clippings reporting an athlete’s DUI, public misconduct, violent behavior or all-around misbehaving. Then, redemption! A year off, a secret trip to some treatment center on the beach... Read More

Working Through Legal Issues In Treatment

By: Mark Rosen Case Manager, The Refuge – A Healing Place Clients with legal issues in treatment typically experience anxiety and fear about their current and future outcomes.  Admitting to treatment alone can be an unnerving process, but imagine entering treatment with legal problems, and you believe that you might be facing incarceration after successfully completing treatment.  With effective communication, letter writing, and excellent advocacy on behalf of the client,... Read More

Beneath The Surface

It’s hard to understand addiction sometimes. It’s really hard to understand when it’s someone you care for and they are looking back at you, clearly intoxicated by whatever their favorite form of controlled dissociation is (drugs, alcohol, sex, food/not eating food, gambling), and they are again lying, again manipulating and again doing all the things we can’t stand. 

Rubics cube, a maze, a jigsaw puzzle….Trauma Resolution

Working with the human condition is like trying to solve all of those puzzles… There is a reason for human behaviors that are difficult to make sense of, but our behaviors always make perfect sense when we Unravel our story. Each piece of the puzzle that we discover adds to the story and ultimately allows us to understand ourselves and others. We can become congruent like the Rubics cube matching in... Read More