Category: Abandonment & Neglect

Trauma Bonding, Codependency & Toxic Relationships

By: Janina Sola, Therapist One of the most challenging aspects of life is forming healthy bonds and relationships with others.  When mixed with a history of trauma, it can become even more complicated.  Often times, a person who has experienced trauma, forms an unhealthy loyalty to others which is termed as trauma bonding.  Trauma bonding means that the “victims have a certain dysfunctional attachments that occurs in the presence of... Read More

A Different Perspective on the Holidays

By: Thomas Pecca, MS, CAS, CSAT, CTT Therapist, The Refuge – A Healing Place When I think of Thanksgiving, the classic Norman Rockwell painting comes to mind. A huge family sitting around a table preparing to carve a Turkey, so big it looks almost prehistoric. Smiles and anticipation on every face. For many of us that painting, although a caricature of American life, is close to accurate. For many of us... Read More

Courage To Be Known

By: David Moss, LMHC, CTT3 Outpatient Therapist, The Refuge – A Healing Place During my internship in my Masters in Counseling program I was shown a video of a Ted Talk by Brene Brown that has shaped how I approach counseling to this day. While working on her doctorate Brene collected data on what connects us as human beings and she found an interesting theme, instead of people sharing what connected them... Read More

Connecting The Empowered Dots

By: Brandy Harris, MA, LMHC-I Intensive Outpatient Program Manager I have been at The Refuge Transitions since May of 2012. We work with individuals from all walks of life; some have experienced multiple treatments, some are stepping down from residential treatment, and others are coming to us for treatment for the first time.  A common connection between many of these individuals is how they find ways to heal. 

Conflicted Grief

When my father died several years ago, I received a number of sympathy cards from coworkers that suggested that I let my wonderful memories of my relationship with him from childhood and onward comfort me. As a grief counselor my thoughts immediately went to how interesting it is that people who knew nothing about my father or my childhood assumed that it would be a source of comfort.  Having worked... Read More

The Loneliest Heart

Could the Beatles be right? “All We Need is LOVE” From the first breath we need, crave, ache, cry for love, connection, nurturing, life fulfilling attachment, for our needs to be met. More than that, we will wither away and die without attachment to another; our Mother, Caregiver, the source of our life and if our body doesn’t wither away, surely our Soul does, our Spirit.

Of Mice and Men

Of Mice and Men and Women and Children There is a dramatic difference in the way researchers and most therapists see the world and the people of the world. For very good ethical reasons researchers generally do their magic with mice and correlate that to the lives of people. Well, I am very excited about the study of epigenetics and its impact on the understanding of intergenerational trauma, its impact... Read More